We long for connection, so why is it so hard?
In today’s world, relationships are complicated by many factors including chronic work stress, too many obligations, social isolation, financial stress, and poor communication. Instead of turning towards one another for support, couples often become disconnected and disillusioned with their relationship.
Common couples issues addressed in counseling include improving communication, resolving conflict, restoring lost connection, intimacy, trust and infidelity.
There are different points in time when couples are especially vulnerable to experiencing increasing levels of dissatisfaction in a relationship: after the initial 3-6 months of dating when the “honeymoon” phase wears off, during the planning of a wedding or commitment ceremony, after moving in together, during pregnancy and/or after the birth of a baby, with multiple children under the age of 5 in the home, and when children go to college or move out.
If you are wondering if right now is the time to come in for counseling, it probably is. There are many benefits to establishing and maintaining a healthy relationship. According to nationally-recognized researcher, author, and therapist, Dr. John Gottman, individuals in healthy relationships:
- Live longer
- Sustain more responsive immune systems
- Are less likely to act out with violence on self or others
- Experience 35% less illness
- Report fewer emotional or mental health issues
I offer counseling for couples at all states of the relationship. My goal is to strengthen connection through couples, pre-marital and marital counseling. I also work with couples who are trying to restore their relationship after an affair.
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.